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Are you a polygamist?

1PeaceMaker

No. But why does it matter if I am, seeing that I support it?

serpentdove

Pr 23:7...

serpentdove

"Polygamy—having more than one wife: ...Contrary to: God’s original Law (Gen. 2:24), Ideal picture of marriage (Ps. 128:1–6), God’s commandment (Ex. 20:14), God’s equal distribution of the sexes (Gen. 1:27; 1 Cor. 7:2), Relationship between Christ and the Church (Eph. 5:22–33); Productive of: Dissension (Gen. 16:1–6), Discord (1 Sam. 1:6), Degeneracy (1 Kin. 11:1–4)." Thomas Nelson Publishers. (1996). Nelson’s quick reference topical Bible index (p. 495). Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers.

1PeaceMaker

...I've added another reason men won't marry you (women who aren't married) - a lack of polygamy.

1PeaceMaker

I don't think spineless women would be woman-enough to handle another woman in her life as well as a husband.

1PeaceMaker

...I might actually prefer polygamy as a solution if I was still in my season of giving God His heritage via my womb...

Arthur Brain

Why would you want to share your partner with someone else?

1PeaceMaker

Because of Matt 7:12...

1PeaceMaker

...[W]omen deserve to be able to choose the wisest, most godly, most successful men, even if they themselves feel average and can't find a single man that matches that description. Why settle for less?

1PeaceMaker

There's this monogamous couple I know of that are really in love. He spends most of his life overseas at work. She's alone for years at a time. I think it's hardest on her. Many women leave for less heartache. If they had another spouse it might be easier for her, and in turn, for him. Possibly, anyway. They have kids, too. Really in love and together - yet apart.

Arthur Brain

If your husband was out having intimacy with another "wife" while you were sat home doing the laundry or something, then you really would be happy with it?

1PeaceMaker

Sure. What would it matter to me if he did that or went bowling with guy friends as long as I knew he was not getting into trouble?

Arthur Brain

Also, what about these additional 'wives'? Aren't they just effectively 'add ons' so what exactly do they get out of these 'arrangements' if it's for the benefit of your marriage?

1PeaceMaker

Actually, I can think of a long list they would get. 7 instant sons/daughters, a proven husband who is never abusive in any sense of the word, a wife-best-friend, a man who is proven fertile who makes beautiful, friendly, well raised children, an end to being alone or fearing a lonely old age, etc. Not to mention free child-care, free house-help, extra resources, etc.

One big reason a wife like me would think about polygamy is for the lonely women who can't get a good man. My man is so good he gives me survivor guilt. I took him out, so to speak. With monogamy, nobody else can know the joy - no one else can have my one-in-a-million perfect husband...

1PeaceMaker

Just because it's usually the cassa-novas getting the girls, it doesn't mean they are jerks. They get the girls because they are too good to pass up in every way. Every way. And the wife can "tell-all" before they ever say I-do, so only the reputable guys would be that magnetic and influential. Unless you imagine female hostages for life. I don't. Those kind of men would have loyalty issues and would soon be ousted/killed/abandoned, greatly limiting their seed-spread.

1PeaceMaker

There are end-routes involving another man's sperm when the husband is infertile. That leaves a birth-father without a connection to his children. How nice is that to the children? Why not take the provider/father with the seed and include him?

Arthur Brain

There's a reason why most people make a commitment to the one person if they embark on wedlock, even if things go awry later on. Can you appreciate that much?

1PeaceMaker

Social constructs. I can appreciate the concept of taboos and tradition. Social creatures have a weakness for that sort of thing.

1PeaceMaker

[Another wife] What if she had a good best girlfriend who slept over with her and helped her raise the kids while he was constantly gone?

1PeaceMaker

[One woman, one man in marriage] Why is that level of possessiveness part of loving?

1PeaceMaker

...I thought this was about a certain phenomina you want to stamp out, not attacking Hannah, Sarah, Rachel, or any of the rest of the godly people who gave women more children through sharing marriage for the Promise of Abraham.

1PeaceMaker

God gives instruction on how to be a proper polygamist man...

1PeaceMaker

I left a freak cult because they were in the habit of breaking up polygamous families when they converted them.

1PeaceMaker

...I don't believe polygamy is a sin?

elohiym

1PeaceMaker is not a polygamist. Polygamy is not a sin, according to the Bible. Yes, she is my only wife. We do not want to be polygamists.

elohiym

My Father is God.