Who was "he whom Jesus loved"?

 

Response to comment [from a Christian]:  "John..."

 

Yes, John (referring to himself).

"Jn 13:23 one of His disciples, whom Jesus loved. This is the first reference to John the apostle, the author of the gospel (see
Introduction: Author and Date). He specifically mentioned Himself at the cross (19:26, 27), at the empty tomb (20:2–9), by the Sea of Tiberias (21:1, 20–23), and in the next to last verse where He is referenced as the author of the gospel (21:24)." MacArthur, John Jr: The MacArthur Study Bible. electronic ed. Nashville : Word Pub., 1997, c1997, S. Jn 13:23

 

Response to comment [from a Christian]: "What about this verse [Jn 11:1-3]..."

 

[The sickness of Lazarus (11:1–3)] "The background (11:1–2): Lazarus, beloved friend of Jesus and brother of Mary and Martha, lies sick in Bethany." Willmington, H. L.: The Outline Bible. Wheaton, Ill. : Tyndale House Publishers, 1999, S. Jn 11:1-2

Therefore his sisters sent unto him, saying, Lord, behold, he whom thou lovest is sick [John 11:3].

"These are humble folk, and they make no request, no demand of Him. They tell Jesus the problem and let Him decide what to do. So often in prayers I hear the people demanding that the Lord heal the sick. When did God become a Western Union boy? When did He become a waiter to wait upon us or a redcap boy to carry our suitcase? He doesn’t do things that way. Mary and Martha knew their Lord! “Lord, behold, he whom thou lovest is sick.”

“He whom thou lovest.” Lazarus is loved by the Savior. Paul said, “He loved me” (see
Gal. 2:20). John called himself the disciple whom Jesus loved. Peter declared that Jesus loves us. And by the way, He loves you and He loves me. Anyone who is a child of God is one whom Jesus loves." McGee, J. Vernon: Thru the Bible Commentary. electronic ed. Nashville : Thomas Nelson, 1997, c1981, S. 4:437

 

Who was "he whom Jesus loved"?